'Why even bother?' : Man Storms Out of Wife's Birthday Dinner After She Hosts It at the One Restaurant He Specifically Asked Her Not to Host At

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    Font - A AITA for walking out of the restaurant during my wife's birthday dinner with her family. I'm feeling a bit guilty now. Posted by u/you kickmydog613 9 hours ago
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    Font - For context my wife's birthday was a few days ago, I took her out last weekend somewhere nice for just me and her to have lunch and I took her out and did a whole walk/hiking day which is her favorite thing to do. This weekend her parents wanted to take her out to dinner, wherever she wanted to go. She asked my opinion on it, and I simply answered "literally anywhere except shoguns is fine".
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    Font - She knows I don't like the restaurant, I just don't like the flavors. Her dad loves the place so we've been there often, every single time I have not liked it, so I came to the conclusion I just would stop going there. Spending $30 on a plate of food I won't eat seems ridiculous. Cue todays events, we went out with her parents and our kids, had a nice day together.
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    Font - Time comes to decide where we're going for dinner, wife and family says shoguns. I think "okay, no big deal I'll just get a kids meal or something (chicken strips and fries)". I remind my wife on the way to the restaurant that I don't plan on eating anything off the menu, but I would be more than happy to sit with everyone, enjoy the company, and I will order the chicken strips. She's happy, I'm happy, all good.
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    Font - Until we get to the restaurant that is. Turns out the kids meals are only for 10 and under, obviously I'm way over that age limit, so I thought "no big deal, I'll just relax and enjoy the company, then I'll grab some food when we leave". Oh no, according to shoguns policy you have to pay per person whether or not that person is eating. They wanted me to pay $10
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    Font - to watch other people eat, when the kids meal would've only cost $7. So I asked again if I could just get the kids meal then, they refused, my wife was getting upset over the $10 charge for me to just sit there, so I told my wife I'm not paying $10 to watch everyone else eat dinner, fuck that.
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    Font - So now I'm sitting outside in the car, my wife is mad at me, and my wife's parents I'm sure are not thrilled as well. I guess I'm just feeling guilty, so the real question here is AITA? Should I have paid the $10 to sit at the table and watch everyone eat food that I can't even stand the smell of?
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    Font - Few_Ad_5752. 9 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [7] NTA. She asked your opinion and you told her literally anywhere but shoguns. Why she chose it is anyone's guess, but it was a thoughtless thing to do, birthday or not. And she shouldn't be mad at you. 6.3k Reply Share
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    Font - FreshlyFistedDogAnus 3 hr. ago I agree, one thing to be upset when the person had the opportunity to voice an opinion and they didn't, amd when they did. NTA if your wife wanted to pick a place to appease family she shouldn't have asked an opinion amd then g3t upset when said opinion isn't listened to. Especially
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    Font - when you were willing to eat something you would eat and chose, and then were denied because of policy. I get up scale, but if a grown man wants to pay for chicken strips just let him... smh... you are getting money either way..
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    Font - Smooth-Duck-4669 3 hr. ago Partassipant [1] The restaurant is the AH. Why must you pay whether you are eating or not? Could understand if you were by yourself, but with a big group is ridiculous.
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    Font - ● 10piepiek 8 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [5] ESH. It's your wife's birthday, so you could easily just nibbled on some vegetables or salad, or even just rice. You're an adult and adults sometimes have to just suck it up and do stuff they don't want to.
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    Font - That being said, she's also the ah because who bother asking your opinion, and then choosing the one place you said you didn't want to go to? She clearly didn't care what you thought, and even though it's her birthday, I'm sure she could have chosen another restaurant where everyone could have eaten something they enjoyed. 3.8k Reply Share
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    Font - ISwearIUsed To BeSmart 7 hr. ago ● Not to defend the wife, but she likely was asking for suggestions, not vetos. Like, I ask my husband for suggestions because maybe he's heard good things about a new restaurant, or he can remind me of places we enjoyed.
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    Font - But to only issue a veto on a birthday meal? That's a pretty crummy thing to do.
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    Font - Lucidream- 6 hr. ago You'd be incredibly selfish if you went to the one place where they serve food that your husband exclusively dislike and can't stand. No matter the occasion.
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    Font - He would be fine literally anywhere else. It's so rude to ask him to pay $10 to sit and watch people eat and endure bad smells while he starves. 1.7k Reply Share
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    Font - LittleBug088 Partassipant · 6 hr. ago [1] I disagree. My fiancé loves sushi, that's his favorite. I personally don't even really like most seafood, and the idea of eating it raw just gives me the skeevies. I have tried it (at my fiancé's insistence) and I just don't like it.
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    Font - I'm still more than happy to take him to his favorite sushi place for his birthday. There's literally only one (beef and noodles) dish on their menu that I like, and I certainly am not always in the mood to eat that dish, but I'm always willing to suck it up so my fiancé can have a nice little treat that
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    Font - he really enjoys. Especially on his birthday. Sometimes, you sacrifice little conveniences for the person you love. It's worth it to see them smile.
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    Font - Lucidream-6 hr. ago You are projecting something completely irrelevant. This person did not bring up a cultures cuisine like you are. If he said "no Japanese food" then that would be selfish. But he didn't, he specifically said no food from this ONE specific restaurant.
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    Font - It's perfectly reasonable to request to not go to a SPECIFIC restaurant and expect respect no matter the occasion. Therefore NTA.
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    Font - citizenecodrive31. 6 hr. ago Partassipant [1] Projecting irrelevant stories to make the husband look bad is a sport here

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